thank you!
So many people have posted congratulations, here and on my Facebook page — which is really nice, and makes me realize how connected I am with people, all over the place. It is a smaller world. The technologies we have get us information about each other, and keep us in the loop in ways that just weren’t possible before. What’s really fun is that at least two good friends also got engaged, and so there are other people in the planning stages of pre-wedded bliss. I say that at least a little sarcastically — there are many Bridezillas and we all have different ways of viewing marriage, and different ways other people can derail them. Anything that brings together family and friends and means so much comes with pressure too. Having been married before gives things a different twist — I feel much more open to nontraditional or alternative ways of being married, and know how much the wedding really means to the marriage overall. Don’t get me wrong – it’s a great day, but I’m not sure it’s the pinnacle of the relationship. At the very least, expecting it to be puts on a lot of pressure.
And there ain’t nothing wrong with eloping — to a Vegas chapel, NYC city hall, Iceland, or the other side of the moon. You never know what might spell happiness best…